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I am indeed living the dream:
Just a few hundred years ago even the richest king couldn’t imagine having the luxuries that your average person in a 1st world country enjoys.

  • I can communicate instantly in HD with anyone, anywhere on the planet.
  • I can travel across the country to places I want to visit in extreme speed and comfort.
  • I can eat a huge variety strange foods from across the globe, instantly at hand.
  • I shrug of ailments that once would have been fatal.
  • I have instant access to the knowledge to learn any skill I choose.
  • In seconds I can find and read the thoughts and insights of every genius throughout history that has chosen to set them down in writing.

Nice cars, a good house, the feel good factor from new clothes:
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying nice things…
So long as you don’t take them for granted.

The issue is spending money on objects, just to play the status game.
The issue is building your identify around things instead of actions.
The issue is tying your self-worth to what others think about your things.

If the cause is not knowing when you have enough,
And the problem is feeling unfullfilled because you want things you can’t have,
The solution is learning to want the things you already have.

People think they will be happy “when”…

  • “I’ll stop working as much when I get the promotion.”
  • “I’ll have enough money when I get a raise”
  • “I’ll be satisfied when I move to a bigger house”

But if I can be happy with things I already have,
instead of wanting things I don’t,
then I can be happy with now, instead of thinking I’ll be happy in some theoretical future.

The problem with the future is that it’s always in the future.
It’s impossible to experience.
So we delay our happiness into an imagined time which never comes.

So I’m taking note of things I appreciate and enjoy in my life.
And it does genuinely make you happier if applied over time.

Some are expensive, others free.
Some are bought, others earned.
Some are obtained, others experienced.
Some are simple, some obscure.

I’ll return and update this periodically…

  1. Leaving my house and going straight into a walk every morning in the field near my house
  2. I don’t have to face traffic driving into work anymore
  3. Deep bass at top volume on my Harmon Kardon speaker
  4. Chilling in my beanbag with my doggo and book
  5. A bit of cheeky Nickelback or Avril Lavigne on a Friday
  6. Blasting down B roads in the mini with the top down and the wind in whatever hair I have left.
  7. The hair I have left for the next 15 years or so.
  8. Playing games on Ultra settings ( long live the pc masterrace )
  9. Step out of my garden office, into the smell of rain
  10. Learning to drive a digger and digging your own pond. ULTIMATE POWAAAA!
  11. Winding down the office by myself with some reading and journalling
  12. The tactile feel of my focus timer
  13. Doing donuts in the Scooby in the snow
  14. Clive always comes for a cuddle on the toilet
  15. Meditating on my beanbag, total peace.
  16. Dusk clouds at sunset, observed from the swing seat
  17. Blasting round a trackday in the mini, on the edge of grip and fear.
  18. Bare feet in the garden
  19. Eating raspberries fresh off the bush from your own garden
  20. little sparrows dipping in the pond just meters from where I work
  21. Warm bare feet on my new deck outside the office
  22. Picking and eat tangy tomatoes from the vine in the lean-to.
  23. When Immy makes me lunch.
  24. Intense pride for everything we’ve achieved in the last few years on the house and garden. I’m thinking about my future kids and telling them “you’re mum and I built everything the light touches”
  25. Watching birds just a few feet away, feeding on nuts on the deck
  26. The awe from staring at the infinity of the starscape
  27. Fin’s little mews and sighs as he feeds.
  28. Sitting on my deck at night, cuddling Clive listening to the fountain
  29. Smell of the rain
  30. Drips from office roof into Japanese pond
  31. Braving the downpour with good gloves, hats, jackets and equipment. The right gear for the right weather.
  32. The satisfaction of truly changing a client’s business in just one call. The true value that comes from deep knowledge, hard-earned.
  33. On my evening walk, the pets trail me like little ducklings
  34. Quiet alone time in the office with classical music and a good book

Ice, wind, darkness.
All these stunt growth in nature.

How to 10x your life & work through focus

Humans are the only species on earth that can feed on hardship and turn it into growth.

But it can go either way…

Hardship has to be recognised and chosen,
Else it festers into victimhood.

I’ve been feeling a little lost lately, not sure what I should be working on next.

I need clarity on what I want,
so I can decide what actions will lead towards my goal.

Just now my goals aren’ttask-related, but perception related.
How am I thinking during the day, and how did I feel about it?

How to measure my success:

  • Did I grow 1%?
  • How much fun did I have in my work today?
  • How much free time did I have to be a Dad?

Be what you admire in your mentors:

  • Was I helpful?
  • Was I grateful?
  • Was I joyful?
  • Was I loving?
  • Was I resilient?
  • Did I grow

 

It blows my mind that the hardware we used to invent the internet, build ai, travel to the moon and discover the genome
Hasn’t changed since 200,000 years ago,
When we were stabbing at lions with pointy sticks on the savannah.

🧠

Small wonder our modern world is making us unhappy.

We are goldfish in a sandpit.
We have not yet evolved to cope with this accelerating rate of change.

Our hardware is due an update…

Or maybe we just need to get back to things we were built for:

  • Socialising
  • Cooperation
  • Labouring
  • Exploring

Having a baby is an invisible mirror
They copy you
Even when you’re not watching
So you have to be your best all the time
Even when you think you are alone
Not just in behaviour but in deeds and mindset
We all make little exceptions and self justify lazy or poor behaviour

Now I can imagine Fin watching and think
“What’s the best thing here…what would I want Fin to do?”

He’ll learn what to do from what I do
So I have to be that better version of myself, even when no-one is watching.

Scorecard idea from “Chop wood, Carry Water”,
to help you become the person you want to be.

  • Think of someone you admire.
  • Pick X4 characteristics you want to embody.
  • Write them down.
  • Check in at midday.

Have I been this person?

Adjust if necessary.

Mine:

  • Helpful
  • Grateful
  • Resilient
  • Peaceful / joyful
  • Loving

The source of all pain in human condition:

Seeing a state we are able to achieve.

Feeling like we can accomplish more things than we have time for.

Health and wealth are both tied to identity so loss of any one usually leads to a loss of character!

Of course values and integrity are different depending on culture, friend group etc.

This is why it’s so important to build you own sense of self,
Not tie your identity to how much you make,
Or whatever culture deems valuable just now.

50 years ago in the UK culture determined that being a “good” woman was equatable to being a good mother/wife
Being a “father” meant providing.

100 years ago if you were a peasant, that was your lot, and there was no future where you’d become a noble or a wealthy merchant.

Now we have expanded our horizons and we have far more choice in what “integrity” means.
Now we almost have too many choices.

Social would have us believe you can do anything, do any job, live anywhere

This is painful as it’s no longer clear what a “meaningful” life is and we try to pursue 5 different lifesyles at once.
And fear missing out on the ones we don’t pursue.

A happy life comes from being aligned with your daily actions

An unhappy life comes from not being able to align with our values and actions.

The 2 causes of unhappiness

From dan Koe:

The only 2 root causes of unhappiness and social erosion we see in our society:

  1. Not knowing where to invest our attention and mental energy
  2. Knowing where to invest our attention, but not having access or opportunity to.

1 Not knowing what is worth to invest our attention and mental energy

When culture shifts too fast we lag behind, draining our energy on activities that are no longer valuable, or valued in the current culture.
It takes time to rewire your brain.
All the skills and knowledge we’ve built up serve a previous generation

2 not being able to invest our attention and energy where we know it matters

In socialist societies people can wait in line for days for simple day to day tasks. Increasingly we see this in democracies and capitalist societies too.
Our government or culture isn’t providing the means or opportunity to invest our time on things that matter.
The system is rigged in such a way that our attention is hijacked serve others.

  • We don’t have hobbies we have netflix.
  • We don’t have skills we have 9-5s
  • We don’t read books we watch tiktok

What is the cure?

Seek to increase the amount of flow in your life

 

Two extreme paths impacted by AI I dreamt up from the hammock:

A

Prompt engineering is the new omni skill.
Those who can defly use, and have access to, AI, can quit the 9-5, launch a solo businesses pursuing creative or artistic endeavours at a rate never seen before.
The rest will become stagnant and are outcompeted.
Employers become obsolete as people pursue their own creative endeavours and make money for themselves cutting out middlemen in all walks of life,
coupled with the fact that AI giants have replaced vast numbers of small service businesses with specialist trained Ai chatbots.
Since services can be produced cheapy,
Value shifts from objects, status symbols, services to more intellectual properties, training, IP, thoughts, philosophies, connection.
These will be the things that people are selling in x5 years.

B
AI is used to produce a constant deluge of surface level garbage content which floods the Internet.
This compounded with fake news, over-promising, FOMO and aggresive marketing leads to nation-wide fatigue, and lack of trust of online content.
As online content loses meaning, people lose interest in social media platforms, who desperatley try to drum up engagement through divisive AI bots, and bot content, which only drives people away faster.
People now value and trust only face to face connections,
only believe in world events they can see in front of them,
buy local physical products,
triggering a rapid “quiet-quitting” of the Internet

Running around shops like a loon.

People bustling and pushing and grabbing,
they don’t even give a pregnant woman priority.

All trapped in their own bubbles of worry,
With their own priorities,
Things to do and things to buy.

It’s hard not to be pessimistic about cultural values being placed on things over people.
Everywhere I see fresh waves of consumerism,
and tribalism on the rise.

In my own social media bubble,
All the new years resolutions I see revolve around achievement and status games.

I’ve been just as guilty of this, of course.
So this year one of my targets is going to be something softer,
Something less tangible.

I’m focussing on improving myself for…

  • Kindness
  • Patience
  • Empathy

Targets are just something to aim it
It’s target practice that counts

That’s how to aim high, fail most of the time,
And still hold onto your hope

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