I am indeed living the dream:
Just a few hundred years ago even the richest king couldn’t imagine having the luxuries that your average person in a 1st world country enjoys.
Nice cars, a good house, the feel good factor from new clothes:
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying nice things…
So long as you don’t take them for granted.
The issue is spending money on objects, just to play the status game.
The issue is building your identify around things instead of actions.
The issue is tying your self-worth to what others think about your things.
If the cause is not knowing when you have enough,
And the problem is feeling unfullfilled because you want things you can’t have,
The solution is learning to want the things you already have.
People think they will be happy “when”…
But if I can be happy with things I already have,
instead of wanting things I don’t,
then I can be happy with now, instead of thinking I’ll be happy in some theoretical future.
The problem with the future is that it’s always in the future.
It’s impossible to experience.
So we delay our happiness into an imagined time which never comes.
So I’m taking note of things I appreciate and enjoy in my life.
And it does genuinely make you happier if applied over time.
Some are expensive, others free.
Some are bought, others earned.
Some are obtained, others experienced.
Some are simple, some obscure.
I’ll return and update this periodically…
Ice, wind, darkness.
All these stunt growth in nature.
Humans are the only species on earth that can feed on hardship and turn it into growth.
But it can go either way…
Hardship has to be recognised and chosen,
Else it festers into victimhood.
I’ve been feeling a little lost lately, not sure what I should be working on next.
I need clarity on what I want,
so I can decide what actions will lead towards my goal.
Just now my goals aren’ttask-related, but perception related.
How am I thinking during the day, and how did I feel about it?
It blows my mind that the hardware we used to invent the internet, build ai, travel to the moon and discover the genome
Hasn’t changed since 200,000 years ago,
When we were stabbing at lions with pointy sticks on the savannah.
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Small wonder our modern world is making us unhappy.
We are goldfish in a sandpit.
We have not yet evolved to cope with this accelerating rate of change.
Our hardware is due an update…
Or maybe we just need to get back to things we were built for:
Having a baby is an invisible mirror
They copy you
Even when you’re not watching
So you have to be your best all the time
Even when you think you are alone
Not just in behaviour but in deeds and mindset
We all make little exceptions and self justify lazy or poor behaviour
Now I can imagine Fin watching and think
“What’s the best thing here…what would I want Fin to do?”
He’ll learn what to do from what I do
So I have to be that better version of myself, even when no-one is watching.
Scorecard idea from “Chop wood, Carry Water”,
to help you become the person you want to be.
Have I been this person?
Adjust if necessary.
Mine:
The source of all pain in human condition:
Seeing a state we are able to achieve.
Feeling like we can accomplish more things than we have time for.
Health and wealth are both tied to identity so loss of any one usually leads to a loss of character!
Of course values and integrity are different depending on culture, friend group etc.
This is why it’s so important to build you own sense of self,
Not tie your identity to how much you make,
Or whatever culture deems valuable just now.
50 years ago in the UK culture determined that being a “good” woman was equatable to being a good mother/wife
Being a “father” meant providing.
100 years ago if you were a peasant, that was your lot, and there was no future where you’d become a noble or a wealthy merchant.
Now we have expanded our horizons and we have far more choice in what “integrity” means.
Now we almost have too many choices.
Social would have us believe you can do anything, do any job, live anywhere
This is painful as it’s no longer clear what a “meaningful” life is and we try to pursue 5 different lifesyles at once.
And fear missing out on the ones we don’t pursue.
A happy life comes from being aligned with your daily actions
An unhappy life comes from not being able to align with our values and actions.
From dan Koe:
The only 2 root causes of unhappiness and social erosion we see in our society:
When culture shifts too fast we lag behind, draining our energy on activities that are no longer valuable, or valued in the current culture.
It takes time to rewire your brain.
All the skills and knowledge we’ve built up serve a previous generation
In socialist societies people can wait in line for days for simple day to day tasks. Increasingly we see this in democracies and capitalist societies too.
Our government or culture isn’t providing the means or opportunity to invest our time on things that matter.
The system is rigged in such a way that our attention is hijacked serve others.
What is the cure?
Seek to increase the amount of flow in your life
Two extreme paths impacted by AI I dreamt up from the hammock:
A
Prompt engineering is the new omni skill.
Those who can defly use, and have access to, AI, can quit the 9-5, launch a solo businesses pursuing creative or artistic endeavours at a rate never seen before.
The rest will become stagnant and are outcompeted.
Employers become obsolete as people pursue their own creative endeavours and make money for themselves cutting out middlemen in all walks of life,
coupled with the fact that AI giants have replaced vast numbers of small service businesses with specialist trained Ai chatbots.
Since services can be produced cheapy,
Value shifts from objects, status symbols, services to more intellectual properties, training, IP, thoughts, philosophies, connection.
These will be the things that people are selling in x5 years.
B
AI is used to produce a constant deluge of surface level garbage content which floods the Internet.
This compounded with fake news, over-promising, FOMO and aggresive marketing leads to nation-wide fatigue, and lack of trust of online content.
As online content loses meaning, people lose interest in social media platforms, who desperatley try to drum up engagement through divisive AI bots, and bot content, which only drives people away faster.
People now value and trust only face to face connections,
only believe in world events they can see in front of them,
buy local physical products,
triggering a rapid “quiet-quitting” of the Internet
Running around shops like a loon.
People bustling and pushing and grabbing,
they don’t even give a pregnant woman priority.
All trapped in their own bubbles of worry,
With their own priorities,
Things to do and things to buy.
It’s hard not to be pessimistic about cultural values being placed on things over people.
Everywhere I see fresh waves of consumerism,
and tribalism on the rise.
In my own social media bubble,
All the new years resolutions I see revolve around achievement and status games.
I’ve been just as guilty of this, of course.
So this year one of my targets is going to be something softer,
Something less tangible.
I’m focussing on improving myself for…
Targets are just something to aim it
It’s target practice that counts
That’s how to aim high, fail most of the time,
And still hold onto your hope
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